My husband has turned into the cruellest man in Britain ever since my health declined

DEAR DEIDRE: I MUST beryllium joined to the cruellest antheral successful Britain.

Since we got hitched he’s turned into idiosyncratic I don’t recognise – idiosyncratic truthful mean helium won’t adjacent wage for a container of my favourite Earl Grey tea.

I’m 54 and he’s 53. We’ve been joined for 3 years. When we met, helium was kind, loving, generous and ever buying maine costly gifts. He was besides amusive to beryllium with.

But it seems helium didn’t instrumentality the “for worse” portion of his vows seriously. My wellness has declined, meaning I can’t enactment oregon lend much, and he’s made maine consciousness similar I’m a burden.

Sex is uncomfortable for me, truthful I debar it. That makes him aggravated and mean. He perpetually reminds maine that I don’t lend capable to the bills but I springiness arsenic overmuch arsenic I can, retired of my benefits.

When we spell supermarket shopping, helium refuses to fto maine bargain the nutrient I like, adjacent though helium has plentifulness of cash.

I cognize that having a woman who has disabilities and gets bushed isn’t the aboriginal helium planned, but I thought helium loved me.

Instead, helium puts maine down each the time, telling maine I’m pathetic, stupid, and an disfigured cripple.

He ne'er hits maine but helium humiliates me. I can’t instrumentality overmuch much but I don’t person the resources to leave.

DEIDRE SAYS: Not each maltreatment is physical. Your hubby is emotionally, financially and mentally abusive.

He’s making your beingness miserable and helium is destroying your self-esteem. You merit truthful overmuch better.

My enactment pack, Abusive Partner, explains much and contains details of organisations which tin assistance you leave, if that’s what you determine to do.

You tin besides interaction Surviving Economic Abuse (survivingeconomicabuse.org) for their advice.

Ask friends oregon household for enactment too, truthful that they cognize what’s going connected and tin beryllium determination for you.